Permeating all
of the Star Wars movies is the concept of "the Force": a binding,
metaphysical energy that is everywhere, but which some are more
sensitive to than others. In particular, it is a phenomenon that Jedi
Knights—such as Obi-Wan Kenobi and Luke Skywalker—aspire to grok, attune
with, and harness.
Though
not quite in the same IMAX way as George Lucas, I try to teach
facilitators to be sensitive to the energy in group dynamics and to
trust their intuition (in addition to tracking whatever the
little jimmy dickens people are actually saying) with the understanding
that there is much more going on in meetings than sequencing an agenda,
exchanging ideas, and solving problems.
That
said, one of the things that most groups encounter, sooner or later,
are people who act as if the Force doesn't exist (at least not beyond
the force of their will) and I want to explore the dynamics around that
phenonenon.
One of the hallmarks of cooperative groups is that they pay as much attention to how a thing gets done as what gets done. Thus, process agreements (explicit norms about how things should flow) tend to be a big deal in cooperative groups (and individual initiative to just go out and "get 'er done" is less celebrated).
I
want to approach this from the perspective of two archetypes that are
especially vexing to the Cooperative Force: the Tragic Dynamic Veteran
and the Cynical Lone Wolf, both of which should be familiar to observers
of group dynamics. First, I'll start with a compendium of qualities
that these types tend to hold in common.
Both:
o Are hard workers.
o Are willing to push for what they believe is needed, even if their position is unpopular.
o
Are not particularly looking for the limelight; yet expect quiet
recognition and acceptance for their (considerable) contributions to the
group's welfare.o
Have martyr tendencies, where they expect some relief from scrutiny (or
slack around process) by virtue of their yeoman service to the group.
o Will suffer in silence (rather than gnash their teeth in public), even though it's not hard to tell when they're pissed.
o
Tend to be critical of people with a high need for emotional support,
unless it's accompanied by high productivity. Similarly, they're
skeptical of devoting a significant chunk of plenary time to focusing on
feelings unless it can be clearly shown that this leads to action. ("If
we redirected just half the time now being taken by meetings to simply
doing the work, there wouldn't be so damn much to talk about.")
Archetype I: The Tragic Dynamic Veteran
Their Profile
—Frustrated
by non-performance. While they'd prefer to be part of a team, they
don't want to be held up by slackers. Process is fine, but when push
comes to shove, it's more important to get the work done than to hold
the hands of people missing deadlines or wracked by doubt.
—Often
easier to do something themselves than wait for someone less able to
get around to it. While this doesn't build capacity, it solves the
immediate problem and doesn't slow them down. They accept many claims on
their time and it can be excruciating asking them to accommodate the
confused, the slow thinking, and the less competent.
—High-functioning,
which package probably includes many or all of the following traits: a)
multiple skills useful to the group; b) the ability to work quickly; c)
the ability to produce quality work consistently; and d) an
understanding of work details, the best way to sequence things, and the
big picture.
—While process
savvy, there is a tendency to be impatient with bureaucracy when it's
perceived to be in their way (or irrelevant).
—Long to have their ideas listened to as closely as they listen to the contributions of others.
—Tend to get sullen when upset (because they've learned that the group doesn't do well with their anger)
—For
the good of the group will put their thumb in the dike to tackle work
the group wants done but which no one else will tackle. If this is work
that they don't enjoy or don't think is necessary, it can lead to
resentment when that effort is not appreciated or broadly supported.
—By definition, leaders have more power (the ability to influence others) than others. As such, they are often the target of those who are suspicious of power being unevenly distributed.
—Socially
adept and readily available to help others at need, though not
particularly open about their own needs, or asking for help. Given how
much the group may depend on the contributions of dynamic leaders, the
expression of their personal needs can be labeled emotional blackmail.
Here's how it works:
A) The group is dependent on its leaders to get things done.
B) The group functions better and feels more cohesive if members share from the heart what's going on with them.
C) Emotional needs tend to be translated into demands.
D)
The leader responds to the request that they be more human and
vulnerable in the group (per point B), yet in the presence of that
sharing there's push back from the group about the leader pressuring the
group to meet their needs (per point C) with the implied threat that
they'll withdraw their energy if their needs aren't satisfied (invoking
Point A).
Thus, while leaders may think they're only doing B, it may appear to others that it's a power play. Yuck.
How this type benefits the group. They can find
people who can meet them in some respects (big picture thinking,
stamina, dynamism in front of the group, pace), providing peers and the possibility of handing
off significant aspects of their workload to others. They don't mind sharing
the credit or control if the work is being done well. The group can be a base of operation or platform for their work in the world.
How the group benefits from this type. The
group often relies on their dynamism and vision, even when there is
baseline discomfort about how much power they have. A good leader can
help develop the leadership capacity in others, both through modeling
and direct mentoring.
How to connect.
I think the points of leverage are: a) being diligent about leaders
sharing from the heart as much as others; b) seeing to it that leaders
have peer support (just like anyone else); and c) holding leaders
accountable when they color outside the process lines. Hint:
Leaders tend to operate on accelerated time, which means it's important
that any of these options be acted upon as promptly as possible, to
interrupt the leader's tendency to feel isolated and poorly understood.
Archetype II: The Cynical Lone Wolf
Their Profile
—Surly; uncommunicative; doesn't respond to emails or notes; isn't responsive to feedback or evaluations.
—Socially awkward; not well connected in the group.
—Rarely attends meetings & doesn't speak much.
—May ignore greetings.
—Tendency to leak sarcasm.
—They are a person of actions; not words.
—They possess cowboy energy; acting impulsively on their own, rather than seeking permission and group support.
—Life experience has taught them that talking doesn't get things done.
—Being emotionally vulnerable risks getting hurt; it's safer being armored.
How this type benefits the group. Their
work ethic is an inspiration to others. You never have too many members
who ask little and deliver a lot. Their areas of commitment tend to be
handled promptly and competently.
How this type benefits from being in the group. They basically align with the group values, and benefit from the shared work (living in a group, the loner needn't do everything themselves). They accept group decisions about what needs to happen and what resources are available to
accomplish things; yet they opt out socially. (Since they don't value
group process, they don't see its violation as that big a deal.)
How to connect.
I think the best chance with this type is offering something that makes
sense in their value system. Probably that means selling them on how
clear communication and clear energy leads to better efficiency and
productivity. While they may be skeptical, they will probably accept hard evidence (the proof is in the doing). Hint:
Someone approaching this type is not likely to gain any traction unless
that person has a decent reputation for getting things done.
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